Puberty in humans naturally starts at around 12 years of age. Puberty often comes with a romantic liking for other people, called “puppy love.” However, in an age where hormones are heightened, this wild infatuation and developing sexual awareness may be a recipe for disaster if parental guidance is insufficient.
How to cope when your teenager starts dating
1. Take it easy; act natural
Do not compare your child to anyone. It is in human nature to seek romantic attachments at this stage. Parents who understand this can relate better to their teenagers and have more open conversations.
2. Talk directly with your child
It is essential to develop a transparent relationship with your teenage children. Unlike in the past, there is no use in hiding or circumventing uncomfortable topics when raising children nowadays because they will probably encounter them on the Internet anyway. So if your child starts to bring up dating topics or if you notice them getting addicted to their mobile phone, excited to talk to someone. Initiate conversations with your child. Show interest in what is going on in their lives; pay attention to who they talk to; ask who they are and where they studied.
3. Teach them about sex
In line with the previous point, guide your teenagers, especially regarding premature sex. Premature sex is a topic that parents must discuss in-depth and highlight the potential consequences if they don’t exercise restraint. Teach your kids how to avoid risky situations, such as assertively saying no, avoiding private places, and using protection when having sex.
4. Make efforts to meet each other
If parents notice that their children have been talking for a long time, they should try to invite each other over for dinner. Prepare a relaxed dinner and get to know each other. This gesture will make your children feel comfortable and not pressured. You will get to meet the person your kid is interacting with and encourage them to help each other study.
5. Teach your children the nitty-gritty of love
Most parents forget to teach their children what loving someone else means. Your teenage kids must be willing to learn, support, and help whoever they are dating. Teach them not to be overbearing. Don’t be in a hurry; talk to your children systematically without skipping any steps, as this might be the difference in whether or not they turn out to be great people.
Parents with teenage children need to understand the basics of life and view things from their kids’ perspectives. They should rethink their teaching methods to ensure their children feel included and free to speak up. Free communication is a huge step towards reducing the chances of mistakes happening.