Having a healthy family background can tremendously improve a child’s upbringing. However, with the Asian style, children are expected to grow into adulthood exactly how society wants, which can create a “childhood complex” for them. This is something that parents should not be complacent about or overlook.
How did the “childhood knot” arise? What is the cause?
“Childhood knots” often arise from the mental impact of the deeply rooted values children pick up from their familial environment. Children are often frightened to express some things until they grow into adults due to several factors, for example, dealing with extreme shock, not being allowed to pursue their interests, or staying by the rules even when they are uncomfortable, etc.
Can Asian parenting Really Affect childhood?
Admittedly, raising a child in an Asian way can affect their childhood. This might come as a surprise to many parents, who may not expect such a situation. Let’s try to sort them out to see if any of these practices affect your child.
- We often want to teach our children how to be good kids for their parents, but we forget to teach them about self-respect and self-awareness.
- When a child makes a mistake, the consequences are almost always only painful punishment, even if the mistake is minor. Most of the time, the child does something contrary to what his or her parents have taught them or that has been forbidden in the past.
- Being overly strict about things that the parents believe are good but that the child may dislike, such as studying academics so hard that the child dislikes studying at all.
How to Raise a Child Properly and Build a Healthy Family
Asian parents need to readjust all their attitudes and be open to understanding their kids’ concepts. Modern children can easily access knowledge and might be more knowledgeable about some things than their parents. Rigidity is not the solution to parenting, and will instead create “childhood knots,” which can cause pressure. Here is a parenting tip: Try to be open-minded and share ideas with your children. This is the answer to avoiding childhood problems.
Asian parenting is not wrong. But with changes in generations, parents must learn to adapt properly to raise a child well. It’s okay to be strict about what you believe your child should do, but always remember to take the child’s interests and preferences into consideration. It will surely reduce any form of tension and help you grow a healthy family.